Some students are so eager to learn, devoted, and talented that we want to “groom” them for the future. We see so much hope and promise in them that we pour a lot of time, effort, and energy into their training, with the expectation that they will carry our dojo or system into the next generation. It can be devastating when this person walks out. We’re human and we’re going to feel let down, betrayed, disappointed and maybe even a little pissed off. This is not very “Zen-like.” In these situations, it is important to have to have a good balance of feelings and logic. One cannot dominate your personality. If you’re too emotional, you’ll be out of control. If you are too logical, you’ll be too cold. You have to have the right balance. Maintain your composure and realize that students have their own motivations for doing what they do. Appreciate the time you’ve had with them, but know that most will move on and we have to let go.